I get to...(5/21/13)
Every morning for several years, promptly at 10:00a.m., a prominent businesswoman visited her mother in a nursing home. She was close to her mother and loved her very much.
Often she had requests for appointments at that time of day. Her response was always the same: “No, I’ve got to visit with my mother.” Eventually her mother died. Shortly thereafter someone asked the woman for an appointment at 10:00 a.m. It suddenly hit her that she could no longer visit her mother. Her next thought was, Oh, I wish I could visit my mother just one more time.” From that moment on, she changed her “got to’s” to “get to’s.”
Her story makes us realize that pleasurable things are “get to’s.” I get to play golf today, or I get to go on vacation this week. Burdensome things are “got to’s.” I’ve got to go to work at 7:00 a.m.
tomorrow, or I’ve got to clean house. Since perceptions influence thinking and performance, try this. Instead of saying, “I’ve got to go to work,” think about people who have no job. Then you can enthusiastically change it to, “I get to go to work tomorrow.” If somebody invites you to go fishing, instead of saying,”No I’ve got to go to my child’s game on Saturday,” think about the fact that someday your child will grow up and you won’t be able to go to his or her games. Then it’s easy to change it to “get to.”
It’s amazing what that change in words will eventually do for your attitude.